Sunday, August 12, 2012

What we were afraid of

Got results for my Dad.

It has been confirmed that he has cancer in both his lung and his liver. The biopsy results for both locations match...meaning it's cancer on the move.  The doctors have not yet been able to determine the origin of the cancer though.  We hope to schedule his first oncology appointment tomorrow.

Of course I'm very sad.  But there are so many other feelings too.

Some of my feelings are, my dad feels pretty good right now. I would love for my parents to be able to do some traveling, have some fun, etc. If he starts chemo immediately, that will tie them to home, and he'll fairly immediately be very weak. 

My dad does NOT take care of himself. Any care that he receives is due to my mom, or Patrick and me. He hates (and gets surly) to be reminded to do (or not do) things. He will not remember all the special things that will need to be done while he's on chemo.

His respiratory system is WEAK. He has Alzheimer's and COPD. I am quite fearful that chemo will kill him faster than cancer.

He wants to fight, and if the oncologist sees reason to do that...of course we will do as he wishes.  There are just no easy answers.

There is a little bit of good news to share also.  After two years and two months on the market, their house in CA is finally in escrow.  In addition to prayers for my Dad's health, and our peace and wisdom...would you please keep this sale in your thoughts?  My parents really need for this sale to proceed normally, and to not fall apart. It's a long escrow, not due to close until around Halloween.


Colleen said...

Cindy, I'm so sorry at this news. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts... and hope for ease in making decisions.

Kim @ Stuff could... said...

I am so sorry for you and your Dad...My Dad has COPD...feels the same about taking care of himself. There are many feelings going on